Kink checklist app
I’ve learned over the years that 1) there’s always something more to learn and 2) any tool that can tell me what I know to be true about us may help people who haven’t gotten to that same point yet. John Brownstone and I were given the opportunity to review Simpatic.Us – an online questionnaire system (in exchange for an honest review) to see how we liked it, and what we thought of the concept. Now there’s a tool for the awkward (but necessary) conversation that can help – Simpatic.Us. The solution to the first two are sort of obvious, right? But that third one can be tougher, especially if you’re trying to talk about kinky wants and desires and you’re not sure how your partner will respond to them. I blame it on my submissive nature, but I know that’s not true for every submissive.
In my relationship with John Brownstone, I still find it difficult to talk about my sexual needs or wants sometimes. I’m also a woman who spent 12 years not saying the things that needed to be said and had a crappy marriage as a result.
I’m the one who advises writing things down and showing your “letter” to your partner if the words won’t squeeze past your throat. It’s one of the best ways to resolve conflict, disagreements, and bad feelings.īut let’s be honest. Talking things out before they become problems keeps everything (not just your relationship) moving forward.